Layers of Safety

I was born into an unsafe environment. A therapist of mine agreed I, also, inherited genetic 'memory' of trauma--Indigenous American Ancestors and what they dealt with, Grandparents going through the Great Depression, and my mother being sexually abused by her pedophile father from the time she was 9 years old. So, I have never felt … Continue reading Layers of Safety

“If you didn’t want to die alone, maybe you should have treated people better.”

The content discusses the harmful expectations placed on codependent individuals, emphasizing the pressure to avoid setting boundaries and taking endless blame. It illustrates this through a personal anecdote involving a friend who absurdly blames the speaker for a bruise after a night of heavy drinking, reflecting misguided scapegoating.