The Cruel Fallacy of “If You Need Help, Ask for Help”

The saying "If you need help, ask for help" over-simplifies the complexities of seeking support within broken systems. Personal experiences reveal that attempts to reach out often lead to further harm and frustration. True assistance requires systemic change, empathy, and understanding, rather than reliance on platitudes that undermine individual struggles.

Is it Safe, yet?

The Social Experiments Conducted by Someone with Complex PTSD Many sufferers of Complex PTSD got that way by trusting too much and too soon as a survival mechanism. One would think survival would depend upon the opposite—keeping one's guard up and trusting no one. The first example is part of the 'fawn' response—presenting oneself as … Continue reading Is it Safe, yet?

Taking Control of Healthcare

The author recounts a frustrating medical appointment where they felt disrespected and dismissed by a provider. They note inadequate intake procedures, inaccurate paperwork, and a lack of thorough examination. After repeated negative experiences, the author decides to manage their healthcare independently, prioritizing self-advocacy and critical questioning of medical practices.