Response to Jay Reid’s video, “When Scapegoat Survivors Think: “It’s Only Me Finds Who This Difficult””

Yes, that’s the actual title. Put the bottle of wine down, Jay. Even spellcheck would have caught that.

You’ve got this wrong. The thought is, “It’s only me (and others like me) who have it this difficult.” On top of that no one believes us and we are sick of the whiny babies who have no idea what difficult times are because they were never taught how to handle adversity. Most scapegoats are masters at adaptation, adjusting, taking responsibility, being resourceful, and resilient. But, there comes a point when this gets all too exhausting and we’d like others to take back their share of the responsibility they thrust upon us.

Why did we accept all this responsibility of things that were more than ours to take on? Because we were told that we are the problem. And, we mistakenly thought if we are the problem, we can fix it and everyone would be happy and get along. We find out all too late that this was a lie, a future faking by the head of the narcissistic cult family. That in and of itself is a heavy burden most people never have to bear and it’s so foreign to most people that a family, especially a parent, could treat their so-called loved one this way that they refuse to believe this is anything but the ravings of a delusional mind.

I know that nowadays it’s inappropriate and offensive to compare problems. But, I highly doubt regular people during the Depression compared their problems as being equally severe as those in the Nazi prison camps. So, do not belittle the scapegoat experience by comparing it to some Gen Zer’s pronoun or misgendering problem or anything else trivial such as this. If their parents failed to train them to endure adversity, they need to pull up their big kid panties and acquire some coping skills.

And, on that note, I am extremely pissed that therapists are taking these whiny babies as clients over those who truly suffer–the discarded elderly and disabled people with real trauma-based mental health issues. Everyone is throwing around the word trauma so much it has lost it’s meaning, just like the word ‘love’.