The author expresses frustration with the question, "Have you tried…?" feeling it implies incompetence and is condescending. Instead of asking this, they suggest validating the person's experience and offering support. Questions should reflect competence and motivation, focusing on what the individual plans to do next rather than the questioner's comfort.
I was born into an unsafe environment. A therapist of mine agreed I, also, inherited genetic 'memory' of trauma--Indigenous American Ancestors and what they dealt with, Grandparents going through the Great Depression, and my mother being sexually abused by her pedophile father from the time she was 9 years old. So, I have never felt … Continue reading Layers of Safety
Two people within the same hour told my ex-husband and I we are too cute, as they watched us interact with each other in front of them. I'm here to tell ya, we are NOT cute! What we are is a narcissist trying desperately to hold on to his best source of supply and that … Continue reading We are NOT Cute!
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