The author expresses frustration with the question, "Have you tried…?" feeling it implies incompetence and is condescending. Instead of asking this, they suggest validating the person's experience and offering support. Questions should reflect competence and motivation, focusing on what the individual plans to do next rather than the questioner's comfort.
I wrote a song yesterday describing my suffering. As usual, when I sleep, my mind sorts through the problems of the day, including problems I never realized I had. When I woke from my sleep, playing in my head was a line from the Bible...”Thou shalt not suffer a witch to live”. Suffer? In that … Continue reading Dealing with Pain and Narcissism: A Critical Analysis
I was born into an unsafe environment. A therapist of mine agreed I, also, inherited genetic 'memory' of trauma--Indigenous American Ancestors and what they dealt with, Grandparents going through the Great Depression, and my mother being sexually abused by her pedophile father from the time she was 9 years old. So, I have never felt … Continue reading Layers of Safety
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