In this digital age, many individuals are freely dispensing advice on how to define oneself. But how many of them actually follow their own words? I had intended to write an essay discussing gender ideology and the backlash against it. However, my opinions on both sides may be considered controversial. Here are the main points … Continue reading Challenging Gender Ideology: A Personal Discussion
How what most consider just a problem can actually be traumatic...and one person's possible solution Trauma-informed therapy by therapists trained in trauma processing is a relatively new treatment modality. There are those of us who are 62 and older who have never had this type of therapy available to us. And, unless we have money … Continue reading The Elderly and Complex PTSD
The reality of the discarded elderly Amanda Quick Healing I so resonate with this philosophy of being. Unfortunately, it has always backfired on me to show up in the world this way. People are put off by me living my life as an example and celebrating everyone else. The goalpost is always moved every time … Continue reading No Good Deed goes Unpunished
From the time we are toddlers, we are asked by the adults around us, “What do you want to BE when you grow up?” My answer to that was always, “I want to be a MOMMY.” Even when different answers came out of my mouth as my interests grew and the adults tried to steer … Continue reading What ARE You?
Two people within the same hour told my ex-husband and I we are too cute, as they watched us interact with each other in front of them. I'm here to tell ya, we are NOT cute! What we are is a narcissist trying desperately to hold on to his best source of supply and that … Continue reading We are NOT Cute!
Color-coded We did the math for all the critical thinkers. Now, let's work with color for the creative minds. When my health went south, I was actually told by someone I loved, “If you didn't want to die alone, maybe, you should have treated people better.” This is a confusing statement, when received by a … Continue reading For both Critical Thinkers and Creative Minds
A raw look at why dysfunctional families need a scapegoat. It details the psychological abuse and manipulation used to silence a truth-teller. Understanding Narcissistic Families and the Scapegoat Role This essay explores the fixed role of the family scapegoat in narcissistic dynamics. It details the psychological tactics of abuse, from gaslighting to smear campaigns, and … Continue reading Narcissistic Families not only Scapegoat, they ‘Cain and Able’
A former people-pleaser re-examines their identity and past relationships, coming to terms with the emotional cost of self-betrayal and family dysfunction.
The content discusses the harmful expectations placed on codependent individuals, emphasizing the pressure to avoid setting boundaries and taking endless blame. It illustrates this through a personal anecdote involving a friend who absurdly blames the speaker for a bruise after a night of heavy drinking, reflecting misguided scapegoating.
The content emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self-care and personal needs over being overly focused on others. It presents a blueprint based on the Ten Commandments, advocating for self-respect, accountability in relationships, and the necessity of maintaining boundaries. Ultimately, it encourages individuals to avoid codependency and nurture their own well-being.
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