The reality of the discarded elderly Amanda Quick Healing I so resonate with this philosophy of being. Unfortunately, it has always backfired on me to show up in the world this way. People are put off by me living my life as an example and celebrating everyone else. The goalpost is always moved every time … Continue reading No Good Deed goes Unpunished
Tag: Scapegoat
Is it Safe, yet?
The Social Experiments Conducted by Someone with Complex PTSD Many sufferers of Complex PTSD got that way by trusting too much and too soon as a survival mechanism. One would think survival would depend upon the opposite—keeping one's guard up and trusting no one. The first example is part of the 'fawn' response—presenting oneself as … Continue reading Is it Safe, yet?
Layers of Safety
I was born into an unsafe environment. A therapist of mine agreed I, also, inherited genetic 'memory' of trauma--Indigenous American Ancestors and what they dealt with, Grandparents going through the Great Depression, and my mother being sexually abused by her pedophile father from the time she was 9 years old. So, I have never felt … Continue reading Layers of Safety
Response to Jay Reid’s video, “When Scapegoat Survivors Think: “It’s Only Me Finds Who This Difficult””
Yes, that's the actual title. Put the bottle of wine down, Jay. Even spellcheck would have caught that. You've got this wrong. The thought is, "It's only me (and others like me) who have it this difficult." On top of that no one believes us and we are sick of the whiny babies who have … Continue reading Response to Jay Reid’s video, “When Scapegoat Survivors Think: “It’s Only Me Finds Who This Difficult””
We are NOT Cute!
Two people within the same hour told my ex-husband and I we are too cute, as they watched us interact with each other in front of them. I'm here to tell ya, we are NOT cute! What we are is a narcissist trying desperately to hold on to his best source of supply and that … Continue reading We are NOT Cute!
Triggered, Attention-seeking, and Playing the Victim?
Everyone deals differently with grief and loss caused by death. One thing that is universal, though, is that a tragic death; i.e., death of a child or violent death, within a family tears most families apart in one way or another. My family—immediate, family of origin, and extended—has seen within it the cancer death of … Continue reading Triggered, Attention-seeking, and Playing the Victim?
A desperate cry for help: chronic illness, abuse, and mental health trauma
WILL SOMEONE, PLEASE, FUCKING HELP ME?! My issues are: ongoing family stalking, caregiver abuse, unprocessed trauma from murder/suicide, chronic illness, and medical and mental health provider gaslighting. I've tried everything.
Narcissistic Families not only Scapegoat, they ‘Cain and Able’
A raw look at why dysfunctional families need a scapegoat. It details the psychological abuse and manipulation used to silence a truth-teller. Understanding Narcissistic Families and the Scapegoat Role This essay explores the fixed role of the family scapegoat in narcissistic dynamics. It details the psychological tactics of abuse, from gaslighting to smear campaigns, and … Continue reading Narcissistic Families not only Scapegoat, they ‘Cain and Able’
A Narcissistic Mother Uses Her Children’s Love Against Them
The author reflects on childhood experiences with a manipulative mother, who fostered division among siblings while portraying herself as truthful. Grandma’s intervention led to forced confessions of misdeeds. Despite recognizing familial dysfunction and being the family's truth-teller, the author ultimately felt abandoned, revealing the deep emotional wounds caused by their mother's actions.
No one Will be at Your Funeral
The author reflects on their experience as the scapegoat in a narcissistic family, feeling unseen and unworthy. Inspired by a content creator's statements, they recognize the need for personal healing and self-improvement to attract meaningful relationships. The journey toward mental and physical health is emphasized as essential for a better future.
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