The author expresses frustration with the question, "Have you tried…?" feeling it implies incompetence and is condescending. Instead of asking this, they suggest validating the person's experience and offering support. Questions should reflect competence and motivation, focusing on what the individual plans to do next rather than the questioner's comfort.
The idea that “you need pain to know joy” is not wisdom—it’s abuser logic. Babies feel pure joy without any prior suffering. This essay dismantles the lie that cruelty is required for happiness.
I wrote a song yesterday describing my suffering. As usual, when I sleep, my mind sorts through the problems of the day, including problems I never realized I had. When I woke from my sleep, playing in my head was a line from the Bible...”Thou shalt not suffer a witch to live”. Suffer? In that … Continue reading Dealing with Pain and Narcissism: A Critical Analysis
Do we get what we deserve? I am sick and tired of the 'just think positive' people. I am tired of being told I chose my shitty, scapegoat life before I was born or that I agreed to it as a child in order to survive. No being would choose abuse. No child would agree … Continue reading Sick and Tired
From the time we are toddlers, we are asked by the adults around us, “What do you want to BE when you grow up?” My answer to that was always, “I want to be a MOMMY.” Even when different answers came out of my mouth as my interests grew and the adults tried to steer … Continue reading What ARE You?
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