The Rejection is Total

My Journey Through Family Rejection & Estrangement

A personal story of repeated rejection by family, friends, and services after trauma, exploring the grief of estrangement, abandonment, and fighting for recognition

Following a Murder/Suicide in my family in 1/2019:

6/2019 After giving my mother a choice between giving an apology for tormenting me my entire life or excuse me from hers, she chose to excuse me from hers. Rejected as a daughter

11/2021 When seeking moral support from my adult foster daughter after my abandonment by family, friends, mental health and medical services, she told me, “You act like your problems are bigger than everyone else’s”. Rejected as a foster mother

After expressing my hurt feelings over my step-mother failing to follow-through with an offer she made me nor give me a head’s up that she’d be unable to, she told me, “Your standards are too high; and, it’s off-putting.” Rejected as a step-daughter

3/2023 When seeking moral support over the course of two years, friends abandoned me one-by-one for one reason or another, culminating in the final, “You act like your needs are more important that everyone else’s”. Rejected as a friend

4/2024 After seeking moral support from Aunts over the course of five years, I was abandoned by them one-by-one by the response of silence to my outreach for moral support. Rejected as a niece

12/2024 After seeking moral support from cousins over the course of three years, the final statement was, “We don’t need your drama.” Rejected as a cousin

1/2025 In response to me publishing a holiday instrumental album I created for my grandchildren, two of my adult grandchildren publicily threatened to destroy my YouTube Official Artist channel, if I refused to unpublish my creative work. Rejected as a grandmother

8/2025 After reaching out to ministers over the course of four years, I was rejected by them one-by-one, mostly by the response of silence to my outreach for moral support; but, the worst was my actual minister saying to me, “The whole world can’t be wrong. Maybe you need to look in the mirror.” Even though he knew that is all I’ve been doing my entire life as the scapegoat of my family. Rejected as a spiritual being

11/2025 After years of trying to reconcile after being estranged by my adult children for six years, the final statement was, “I do not owe you anything.” Rejected as a mother

12/2025 After seeking moral support from adult nieces and nephews over the course of six years, I was abandoned by them one-by-one for one reason or another. The worst being, after asking for sick-time off as my niece’s unpaid childcare provider, she ended the conversation with, “The kids and I didn’t care for you anyway. You were just free.” Rejected as an Aunt

2/2026 After seeking help for domestic abuse from law enforcement and Adult Protective Services multiple times, I was ultimately formally screened out of services as nonvulnerable despite being terminally ill. Rejected as a disabled person

After seeking moral support from siblings over the course of seven years, I was abandoned by them one by one. The worst of which was being uninvited to my nephew’s funeral after a smear campaign was launched against me. Rejected as a sibling

3/2026 After seeking mental health services for seven years and being formally dismissed from a University Hospital’s Physician Network and seeking medical care for the subsequent five years, despite escalating to every available regulatory, advocacy, and civil rights agency; the final assessment is, my needs are too complex and cost-prohibitive, culminating in denial of mental health support as well as palliative care. Rejected as a human being

And, sprinkled throughout this time, I’ve had my status as a verified music artist mocked, my status as a retired public servant minimized, my education and aquired skills dismissed, I’ve been intentionally deadnamed in print after legally changing my name, and have had to continually fight to maintain my autonomy as an individual.

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• The post promotes a personal essay detailing the author’s seven-year timeline of family estrangements starting from a 2019 murder-suicide, chronicling rejections in roles like daughter, mother, and aunt amid grief, scapegoating, and systemic neglect.
• Peer-reviewed studies indicate family estrangement impacts 10-17% of U.S. adults, with average durations exceeding five years and rising trends linked to unresolved trauma, mirroring the essay’s emphasis on prolonged isolation.
• The narrative underscores abandonment’s psychological toll, supported by research showing estranged individuals face heightened risks of depression and invalidation, yet often find empowerment through storytelling and boundary-setting.